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Hello, my loyal blog readers. Hope you enjoyed my last article- The Common Denominator.

This week’s article runs along the same lines of self-reflection and motivation.

Okay, let’s get in to it!

(in my Tami Roman’s voice)

So, I confess, if you call me on a Saturday night….I am probably unreachable. Why? It’s not because I am out on the town. I am most likely on my couch, with the remote in hand, and in a robed attire.

On one of these auspicious nights, I came across a Sci fi movie called “ Archive”. The plot tells of a scientist – Theo James; who is haunted by the death of his wife. He moved into a state-of-the-art tech facility, where he built two robots; one of which he used to upload his wife’s memories. But he was unsuccessful in his repeated attempts . It seems that whenever he tried to download the data, the AI ( artificial intelligence) of his wife would experience pain.

A series of thriller events occurred in the movie which forced him to shut down the facility; ultimately killing his wife’s memories. The plot twist came at the end when the viewer finds out that the scientist is the one dead: not his wife.

Spooky huh?

This movie caused me to consider the topic of Perspective. The way we see the world, colors our perspective in life. Of all the self-help books one can read, they all point to changing or challenging one’s mind to a new perspective.

This week I challenge myself, and fellow readers to look at our current perspective in life.

Be it in the area of relationships, finances, politics or professional career. What perspective have you held onto that may need to be changed?

As the cartoon above depicts, where one stands in life determines one’s outlook. Let us make a conscious decision to be positive and open minded!

Let me know your thoughts and comments below!

See you next time………

Edited by D.H Bonner

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Hello, my loyal blog readers.

Let me first apologize for my tardiness in uploading a new blog. I was taking a much-needed hiatus from all things electronic.

I want to take the time to acknowledge the Black Lives Matter movement. As a minority myself, I certainly feel the pain of the senseless killings of other people of color. I pray that we can both collectively and individually, find solace in our ongoing quest to overcome these injustices, and in our pursuit to finally obtain the justice and equality that we so rightly deserve. I believe this will bring a much-needed healing within our community.

This leads me to discuss this month’s topic- The Common Denominator. If you are anything like me, I hate math. However, there is one concept I did grasp - there is always a common denominator. The common denominator stays constant; no matter how many other variables you add to the equation, the common denominator remains the same. I liken this mathematical concept to life.

Many times, we face the same type of problem over and over again… it’s like we are going around in circles. It could be different people, different situations, different locations, yet the same issues reoccur.

These issues may vary from:

A) Personal - serial dater/cheating partners

B) Financial - inability to save/always in debt

C) Employment – unstable employment/issues with management causing us to leave.

Now don’t get me wrong, we all have at one time or another, encountered these issues (lucky you if you have not); however, for the majority of us who have, let us get into it.

First issue- Personal

I get it, sometimes in the relationship department, we kiss a few toads. However, if after three or four, you are still encountering toads… Hun, let’s face it, either you like toads, or you need glasses, LOL! But on a serious note, we are choosing these partners. No one is forcing them on us, it’s our choice to inquire within e.g. why am I attracted to cheaters?

Second issue- Financial

Again, as a minority without a trust fund, I feel I must work extra hard to get ahead. Then this issue sometimes leads to another - what if my working extra hard fails to reward me in the future? For instance, I know some people who are always broke. At least they say they are. Do you have family members or friends who call you up every so often for a “loan”? Granted, we all get in a tough spot at times, but if year after year you are unable to pay your bills, something is wrong. And I assure you, more money won’t solve it. Don’t believe me? Google “the lottery curse”.

Third issue- Employment

To all my habitual jobseekers, meaning, if every two years you are looking for a new job, then the issue is not your manager or the organization….it is most likely you, and your insecurity of your career calling.

As we begin the New Year, let’s take some introspection …search within and ask ourselves ‑

Am I the common denominator?

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