Mirror, Mirror on the wall...who's the fairest of them all?


Who’s the Fairest of them all?

Hello, my loyal blog readers, I am happy that you stop by. The month of May is deemed “Mental Health Awareness” month. As such, I thought it best to focus this article on our reasoning process. In essence, let’s explore the reasons we think the way we do.

Consider the concept of differential association theory. It states an individual is most likely to be influenced by definitions provided by friends and family. If this being true, then our reasoning was derived from our social upbringing. Using the Disney classic – Snow White, as our case analysis, let us take the time out to consider, the wicked witch’s mindset. We always saw her as the villain, have we ever stopped to think why she acted this way towards Snow White? Why did she feel the need to be the “fairest of them all” ? Well… obviously not, we were all like 8 years old …LOL

We all can genuinely admit, to having a wicked witch in us. Let’s face it, some of us are true haters, the urban dictionary says it nicely “A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person.”

So, you can be a seasonal or a habitual “hater”; either way, there is hope for recovery. The first step to recovery is to recognize that we all can shine. Another person’s light does not dim yours. Referring to the Snow-White story ,the wicked witch was a bitter and lonely person. Her only friend was a talking mirror ! Hating on others is like drinking poison; eventually it kills your own light.

The second step is to purposely take stock of the mental thoughts that come across ones’ mind. I get it, life is not easy; some of us have been through a lot. It is so very easy to stay in that place of hurt. At times, the hurt becomes the new normal. I beg you, to take the time out to unpack your emotions. Christine Langley Obaugh states” we repeat what we don’t repair”. Trust me when I say, that I have experienced the pain from my great – great grandmother’s trauma. Why you may ask? All because, she did not deal with her pain. As a result, she repeated the hurt inflicted from her mother to her eldest daughter. Her daughter ( my grandmother) then indirectly did the same to her daughter, my mother, and now my mother has done the same to me.

This is where it stops!

Because unlike the matriarchs that have gone before me, I am going to deal with my emotional trauma. To prevent me from hurting my children.

In closing, let’s consider positive affirmations to counteract the negativity:

a) I got this; it will work out

b) Things are tough right now, luckily, I got some w40!

c) I can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthen me- Phill 4:13

Remember, it is not “who is the fairest of them all”? . It is – “ I am going to overcome it all

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