Hello, my loyal blog readers.
Let me first apologize for my tardiness in uploading a new blog. I was taking a much-needed hiatus from all things electronic.
I want to take the time to acknowledge the Black Lives Matter movement. As a minority myself, I certainly feel the pain of the senseless killings of other people of color. I pray that we can both collectively and individually, find solace in our ongoing quest to overcome these injustices, and in our pursuit to finally obtain the justice and equality that we so rightly deserve. I believe this will bring a much-needed healing within our community.
This leads me to discuss this month’s topic- The Common Denominator. If you are anything like me, I hate math. However, there is one concept I did grasp - there is always a common denominator. The common denominator stays constant; no matter how many other variables you add to the equation, the common denominator remains the same. I liken this mathematical concept to life.
Many times, we face the same type of problem over and over again… it’s like we are going around in circles. It could be different people, different situations, different locations, yet the same issues reoccur.
These issues may vary from:
A) Personal - serial dater/cheating partners
B) Financial - inability to save/always in debt
C) Employment – unstable employment/issues with management causing us to leave.
Now don’t get me wrong, we all have at one time or another, encountered these issues (lucky you if you have not); however, for the majority of us who have, let us get into it.
First issue- Personal
I get it, sometimes in the relationship department, we kiss a few toads. However, if after three or four, you are still encountering toads… Hun, let’s face it, either you like toads, or you need glasses, LOL! But on a serious note, we are choosing these partners. No one is forcing them on us, it’s our choice to inquire within e.g. why am I attracted to cheaters?
Second issue- Financial
Again, as a minority without a trust fund, I feel I must work extra hard to get ahead. Then this issue sometimes leads to another - what if my working extra hard fails to reward me in the future? For instance, I know some people who are always broke. At least they say they are. Do you have family members or friends who call you up every so often for a “loan”? Granted, we all get in a tough spot at times, but if year after year you are unable to pay your bills, something is wrong. And I assure you, more money won’t solve it. Don’t believe me? Google “the lottery curse”.
Third issue- Employment
To all my habitual jobseekers, meaning, if every two years you are looking for a new job, then the issue is not your manager or the organization….it is most likely you, and your insecurity of your career calling.
As we begin the New Year, let’s take some introspection …search within and ask ourselves ‑
Am I the common denominator?